With so many misperceptions and jokes about it, many men think it only happens in the movies. Or that it only happens to young teens. Here, we look at why it’s easy to not fully understand this very common sexual health issue, and why everything you thought you knew about premature ejaculation likely isn’t true. Knowing the facts can be the first step in getting in front of the condition and taking active steps to last as long as you want to, every time.
Premature ejaculation can actually happen at any age.
One of the biggest things men mistakenly believe about premature ejaculation is that it only happens to teenagers and young inexperienced men. While it may be more common in younger men, the fact is that men of all ages experience premature ejaculation. In addition, it’s believed incidence of premature ejaculation holds steady from the teens to the 50s, and then sharply increases.
And it’s common.
Another thing men think they know is how frequently premature ejaculation happens. Since people don’t talk about it, many think premature ejaculation simply doesn’t exist. But premature ejaculation is actually more common than erectile dysfunction. Sources say 30% to 40% of men will experience the condition at some point in their lives.
It’s not always about time.
What men also don’t understand about premature ejaculation is what exactly constitutes it. Here, there are differing answers. A common definition is ejaculating within two minutes of insertion. Meanwhile, some experts define premature ejaculation as 5.4 minutes between the point of vaginal penetration until ejaculation, but add that this “stopwatch” approach to the “intravaginal ejaculatory latency time” isn’t always accurate.
And in many cases, the amount of time is subjective. According to one finding, men who ejaculate within one minute have said they do not have premature ejaculation, while those who last for 20 minutes have said they do have it. The truth is that premature ejaculation has little to do with time, and many men don’t have an accurate understanding of when sex is beginning and long they’re actually lasting. A better definition is your own control and your ability to hold back ejaculation until you’re ready.
Your partner really isn’t bothered.
Another falsehood concerns men’s feelings about premature ejaculation and how much it affects their partner’s enjoyment of sex. While it is true that premature ejaculation can cause men stress and anxiety, the reality is that partners are not all that dissatisfied and concerned. According to Psychology Today, your partner’s distress is “almost always a reaction to the suffering premature ejaculation causes men than to their own dissatisfaction with how long sex lasts.”
There is something you can do about it.
Finally, many men think that if you have premature ejaculation there are no options or treatments. In reality, in many cases, the condition improves or goes away on its own. However, if the problem persists, there are many natural treatments you can try, including Kegel exercises, masturbation, and wearing condoms. There are also things you can do that are simply mind over matter. Most importantly, you should understand that premature ejaculation doesn’t have to be something you accept, or that gets in the way of a satisfying sex life. There are solutions and there are answers to how to last longer in bed.
If you’ve had misunderstandings about premature ejaculation, you are a man among many. And with all the dialogue surrounding erectile dysfunction, this sexual health issue can often be overlooked. But it shouldn’t be. Understanding the facts can help you address premature ejaculation and get more control and more confidence to last longer.