If your husband or partner is experiencing erectile dysfunction, you may have a lot of questions. Among the most common: Is sex still possible? You can be confident that your sexual relations can continue, and it may lead to some of the best intercourse you’ve had. Here is how to stimulate a man with erectile dysfunction and restore his excitement and confidence.
It’s him, not you.
First, it’s important to recognize that you may feel slighted or rejected as your husband or partner understands his erectile dysfunction and takes steps to treat it. Remember there are solutions. Stay positive and know that ED is not a reflection on you. Many men go through this. In fact, sources say ED is one of the most common male sexual problems, affecting an estimated 30 million men in America and 140 million men worldwide.
Another answer to how to stimulate a man with erectile dysfunction is to take the emphasis off the actual act of intercourse. Relax, and don’t focus only on the penis. Experts advise to experiment with other ways of being together such as doing oral sex or using sex toys or a vibrator.
Or, further relax and take the pressure off by exploring other ways to be intimate. Plan a date night, or cuddle, or go back to some good old-fashioned making out. Sex is about more than penetration, and during this time you can let your partner know the penis is not the most important thing.
Another thing to keep in mind is that an erection is not necessary in order to have an orgasm. Experts report that with the right sexual stimulation, it is possible to orgasm as long as you have normal skin sensation.
If that sounds fine, but you and your partner would really like to regain that erection, there are options. There are many mainstream medications that can help. There are also lifestyle changes he can make like relieving stress, improving his diet, or reducing excess weight.
Still, these treatments might not work, or they may not be enough. Because of this, an option many men are going with is vacuum therapy. Vacuum therapy, also known as a penis pump, takes the guesswork out of whether your husband or partner will be able to achieve an erection.
This device involves placing an acrylic penile tube over the penis. The tube is connected to a pump that creates a suction that draws blood into the penis. Once the erection is achieved, an elastic ring is slid from the tube and secured around the base of the penis. This holds the erection in place, making intercourse possible.
The penis pump gives men the power to restore their erections, which can go far in boosting virility and self-esteem. At the same time, the penis ring provides options for men to experiment with different sizes, features, and materials, which can affect the sensation of the erection and the feel of the orgasm. There are also rings with added features that stimulate or vibrate the clitoris, making the penis pump option enticing for women as well.
Erectile dysfunction is something you and your man will get through, together, and there are plenty of satisfying nights of love ahead of you. It can be a stressful situation for both of you, but there are answers and there is hope. This Ultimate Guide to How to Have Sex with ED can provide more answers.
Of course, all solutions start with a conversation, and it may fall to you to bring up the conversation and reach out with compassion and care. For more information, download our free ebook, How to Talk to Your Husband About ED.