After you’ve experienced prostate cancer, it may seem overwhelming to think about returning to an active sex life. Depending on the extent of your cancer and the type of treatment you received, it may take time to get back to “normal,” and it is expected that you’ll experience some degree of erectile dysfunction.
Recognizing this can help alleviate your apprehension. There are also things you can do to ease back into sex after prostate removal, slowly rebuilding the passion while not adding stress to your life. One of the more simpler things you can do is just try a change of scenery. This is how a fresh setting can help.
Why to plan a vacation.
Throughout your treatment process, your home was probably a safe haven where you felt at ease. But it was also probably the site of several hard conversations and stressful times. And, with or without prostate cancer, there are pressures in the home that can add up and cause stress – bills, yardwork, repairs, maintenance. A change of scenery, like when you go on vacation, allows you to physically remove yourself from the situation, which can help you emotionally and mentally.
Vacations with your partner are often centered around an amazing backdrop of fun and romance. They can create an opportunity to have new experiences and shared memories. When planning your trip, consider things you haven’t done before: Zip-lining, snorkeling, or exploring native ruins. This puts the emphasis on discovering and learning with your partner, and takes it off of sex.
New environment, new experiments.
A change of scenery may also make you more open and inclined to want to try new things. You are not in your same bedroom with your same routines. A vacation may be the perfect time to experiment with enhancements that can help get you–and keep you–in the mood. Devices like penis rings can bring more excitement to your love-making and help address erectile dysfunction, all at the same time.
Finally, a vacation can bring new life to sex after prostate cancer just by increasing and improving your quality time together. By removing yourself from everyday stressors, and by putting yourself in a relaxing environment more conducive to adventure and romance, you will naturally build intimacy. You will be away from distractions, phone calls, interruptions, and burdens that can tax your relationship. Instead, you’ll be able to slow down and enjoy each other’s company again. That in itself will take the pressure off of sex and create new ways of being together.
A vacation may be just what the doctor ordered to relieve the emotional effects of cancer. Sources say these effects can contribute to feelings of anxiousness, depression, or self-consciousness and bring on challenges when it comes to sex after prostate cancer.
Fortunately, there are many things you can do–from therapy with a penis pump to planning a romantic getaway–that can make sex part of your relationship again and help you return to the life you love. Learn more in a free book Prostate Cancer and ED: What You Need to Know.