It is true: As we age, we do not have the libido and stamina we enjoyed as young men. Lives change, and sex drives decrease, as the challenges of work, home, family, and money increase. But that doesn’t mean sex is no longer important, or that is no longer exciting. Here are six things to know about sex over 60, and how it can be the best sex ever.
1. Sex still happens even as we get older
While they may not be as active as they once were, older men still pursue a healthy and frequent sex life. One study found that the “majority of men and women between the ages of 60 and 80 are still enthusiastic about sex and intimacy,” and “Some 20% of people over 65 have sex lives that are better than ever before.”
2. But, ED may be more common
At the same time, while sex in the golden years can still happen, you may present with erectile dysfunction. This is not because you’re over 60. Rather, it’s more likely because, as an older man, you’re more prone to conditions and issues that trigger ED. Physically, this can include heart disease, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, and obesity. Behaviorally, you may smoke, drink too much, or not exercise. And psychologically, you may be experiencing depression, anxiety, or overall stress. These can all lead to erectile dysfunction. One study showed that at age 40, 40% of men experienced ED, but by age 70, that percentage increased to 70%.
3. Healthy living is more important than ever
Because ED is more common with age and can be triggered by poor lifestyle habits, taking steps to improve your health after 60 is essential.
The best way to do this is to eat right. A good rule of thumb is that anything that’s bad for your heart is bad for your sex life. Fatty, fried, and processed foods can contribute to clogging arteries and blocking blood flow throughout the body, including to your penis. Doctors recommend eating a traditional Mediterranean diet, which includes fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats like nuts and fish.
Another way to live healthier is to exercise regularly. Sources say a sedentary lifestyle is linked to erectile dysfunction, while regular running, swimming, and other forms of aerobic exercise have been shown to help prevent ED. Another source indicates that exercise boosts circulation and “primes the brain for sexual satisfaction.” It promotes blood flow, which can improve the body’s arousal process.
Smoking can cause narrowing of arteries that reduce blood flow to the penis. And alcohol depresses the central nervous system, which stops it from producing nitric oxide, a chemical that helps create and maintain an erection. To ward off erectile dysfunction, take active steps to stop smoking, and limit alcohol to no more than two or three glasses a day.
A final way to have a healthier lifestyle is just to have fun and laugh more. It’s been shown laughter relaxes the body, boosts the immune system, triggers the release of endorphins, and protects the heart. Moreover, laughing with your partner strengthens your relationship, which can promote intimacy.
4. Some ED treatments may help
Still, if you are experiencing ED despite healthy living, there are ways to overcome it and learn how to have better sex no matter your age.
For some men that may mean taking medications like Viagra or Cialis. But for many men, pills like these are not desired, or are contraindicated. Commercials might have us believe that popping a pill is a guaranteed solution to erectile dysfunction. However, the popular pills do not work for everyone. And for many men, these pills cannot be prescribed if they are taking nitrate medication for heart disease or alpha‑blockers for prostate problems. Other treatments for ED include surgery or penile implants, but those can come with greater complexity and risk. When it comes to sex over 60, many men are looking for more options for addressing ED.
5. Many men over 60 use vacuum therapy
Vacuum therapy, or a “penis pump,” mimics the process your body goes through when it is aroused. Through a penile tube with vacuum suction, the penis pump draws blood into the penis, before an elastic support ring is placed around the base of the penis to hold the erection in place. Vacuum therapy has been proven effective in 90% of clinical trials. Watch a video here to see how it works. A penis pump can help you resume a healthy sex life, and it can provide new sensations in your erection and orgasm that can be fun to experiment with.
6. Sex can be better than ever.
Whether you move forward with a healthy lifestyle or ED treatment, you will likely find that sex over 60 is some of the best you’ve ever had. You have aged and matured, and you’ve gained a greater sense of yourself and your partner. With years invested, you know each other well, and are able to pick up on what your partner likes and dislikes, both in and out of the bedroom.
Another factor that can make sex over 60 great is that life starts to slow down a little, and you have more time to relax, connect, and see where the moment takes you. Kids are older and more self‑sufficient, careers are more established, and work stress may have subsided. Also, one source notes that as women get older concerns about getting pregnant reside, which can make them more relaxed and open to intimacy. Moreover, as couples approach retirement, they gain even more time and energy that can be directed toward shared activities, quality time together, and sex.
Sex over 60 is not only possible, but it can also be a time of greater confidence and enhanced intimacy. And with a handle on sexual performance, you can keep the good times coming. Learn more here in our free ebook.