For teenagers and first-timers, it’s not difficult to imagine. Of course, holding back can be tough to do. But once we reach a certain age, we believe prolonging ejaculation – as long as we want – should be a lot easier. Yet, statistics show premature ejaculation is common, affecting one out of three men at some point of their lives. Here, we look at three reasons why.
First: Is it really premature ejaculation?
Let’s be clear. If you’re returning to sex after a dry spell, or you’re just more excited than usual, ejaculating too early is not a cause for concern. Issues begin when it starts to happen frequently. Experts say you may be diagnosed with premature ejaculation if you always or nearly always ejaculate within one minute of penetration or masturbation, or if you are unable to delay ejaculation all or nearly all of the time. Further, it may be premature ejaculation if this leads to feelings of distress or frustration that make you want to avoid sexual relations as a result.
And it’s important to know that this can happen at any age. Experts advise that although getting older is not a direct cause of premature ejaculation, the process of aging does lead to changes in erections and ejaculations. The erection of an older man may not be as firm or as large as a younger man’s. In addition, the “feeling” of being about to ejaculate can happen sooner for older men, and thus prolonging ejaculation is not as easily possible.
There are also two classifications of premature ejaculation. Lifelong or primary premature ejaculation occurs all or nearly all the time and begins with the first sexual encounters. Acquired or secondary premature ejaculation develops after you’ve had a history of sexual experiences without any ejaculatory issues.
If you are experiencing either lifelong or secondary premature ejaculation, understanding the following three common causes can help.
Often times the challenges involved in prolonging ejaculation are directly related to what’s going on in your head and your heart. There are several emotional factors that contribute to premature ejaculation. Experts say these can include:
- Temporary depression
- Unrealistic expectations about sexual performance
- History of sexual repression
- Lack of confidence
- Relationship problems
Stress can also be a factor, and that can have a compounding affect. Men might have stress, which causes them to ejaculate before they’re ready. Then ejaculating too soon creates more stress, which adds to the stress they were experiencing to begin with. This creates a vicious cycle that can be difficult to break.
Experts also assert that premature ejaculation can be caused by psychological issues, which can be traced to trauma experienced as a child. Sometimes having a strict upbringing about sex or having to ejaculate quickly as a teenager so as not to get “caught” masturbating can contribute to guilt, which can lead to premature ejaculation.
Although less common, challenges in prolonging ejaculation can also be the result of physical reasons. These can include diabetes, multiple sclerosis, prostate disease, and thyroid problems.
Another physical reason experts say is based on brain chemistry. High amounts of serotonin in the brain can delay ejaculation. At the same time, low amounts can shorten the time to ejaculation.
Drug use and excessive alcohol consumption can also contribute to challenges.
If you are experiencing premature ejaculation, or you just want strategies for prolonging ejaculation, it helps to know why. From there, you can take active steps to increase control and answer those important questions about how to last longer in bed.
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